"BRIDGE"

One lesson that you must keep on learning every single day is to never base your happiness to other people. Never put your 100% trust and faith to others because they will eventually fail you one way or another. Even though you know that they didn't do it on purpose, something inside of you still feels the disappointment of expecting the same effort you have given.

And the difficult part of this is that you cannot blame them. Because You are the one who needs to change. You may ask why is it too hard for you to do it? Simple. you just need to love yourself more. But you may ask, how can you actually love yourself? People would say different things but at the end of the day, their words will meant nothing. Deep inside, all you need is someone to embrace you, to love you, to just be at your side to listen to your crappy, unreasonable stories without judgment.

You don't need someone to give you advice and you don't especially need someone to just leave you when you're on your breaking point. You need an ear to listen to and not their unresponsive presence.

People would often say that:

"You just give time to those people who are depressed because later on, they will just come back"

How they are so sure that you will really come back? How are they so sure that the person whom they just left will not be overwhelmed by his thoughts? And worse, What if that person is contemplating to hurt himself and desperately needs to talk to someone but because people around them firmly believe that "he will just come back" the person doesn't have other choice but to do more drastic measures?

That is why if you have someone in your life who refuses to leave you even though you kick them away, be grateful to them because it is very hard to find people nowadays to have that kind of a friend. In this time and age, you just can't give your whole story to someone just because he/she is kind, nice or generous or makes you laugh for a brief moment. You will get disheartened in the end knowing that the person whom you share your wounds will just leave it open and sometimes will make it more painful.

Again, learn to be happy within yourself because it's very hard to know that after giving your all, you will realize that other people will still be happy without you. It will be difficult to accept that while you base your happiness on others, you will see them completely happy with someone else. And as you slowly seeing this, little by little you will collapse like a poorly structured bridge.

As of the moment, you might feel that you NEED to prove to them that you don't need them to convince yourself that you are happy. You may need to compete that every time you see them, they must see you that you're fine. When you see them having fun by themselves without you, you must also show them that you're having fun with other people. So that they will not think that you are a weakling and will not avoid you further.

As you continue to do this and prove your worth, you can proudly walk up to them, head high as if you're telling them, "You see, my happiness is not base on you." "I can actually live and be happy without you."

But as you go on about this, you will get tired. One day, you will wake up asking yourself "Why am I forcing myself to bring back the person who doesn't want to stay?" Then it will hit you and realize that the source of your worth and your joy should not really come from the outside but inside of you.

You need to free yourself from all the burden and stop competing. You need to acknowledge the fact that there are still people out there that needs your love. Your purpose is to reach those people who are downtrodden and hopeless. Your love is so precious to just be wasted away by someone who doesn't give any more value to it.

Always remember that

You are born not just to SMILE but to LAUGH.

You are born not just to WALK but to EXPLORE.

You are born not just to FLY but to SOAR.

Life is dynamic. If you will not move to the tune of its music, you'll end up hating the sound no matter how beautiful it is.

So start rebuilding that bridge again. God is your master architect. Allow Him to make its foundation solid and concrete. Remove the rust of yesterday and repainted it with the new colors of tomorrow. The cars that pass your bridge are the people you meet all your lifetime. Allow them to just passed through you and don't just focused on that one special "car" you've met. God designed you to be a bridge so that you can help more cars go to their destination. In reality, he made you so that you can bring more people to Him.

Be the best BRIDGE that you can be.

#BRIDGE #SELFLOVE